1 Gita Sloka Every Day - Chapter 13 - Kshetra Kshetrajna Yoga - Sloka 9

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1 Gita Sloka  Every Day - Chapter 13 - Kshetra Kshetrajna Yoga - Sloka 9

Sita Rama arriving at Ayodhya

Asaktih anabhih angah putra dara gruhadishu I

Nityam cha sama chittvam ishtan ishtopa pattishu II sloka 9

असक्तिः अनभिः अङ्गः पुत्र दारा गृहदिषु  I

नित्यं च सम चित्त्वं इष्टान इष्टोप पत्तिशु II श्लोक 9

Unattachment, non-identification of self with son, wife, home, and the like, and constant equanimity in the occurence of the desirable and the undesirable.

There are objects of senses to which a man gets deeply attached if not to the enjoyment there of. Such attachments require to be eliminated by discrimination. Inordinate identification with the son, wife and home drives one to the position  of holding them as one's own self. Ailment if any of a kin causes misery to one, due to imaginary ownership. The death of the wife or son deals a greater blow than the death of oneself can possibly render. The loss of the earthly possessions of a miser brings complete frustration to him. Such are the effects of the baneful identification with people and property that are not actually one's own forever. The rightful attitude therefore is to view all beings and all possessions as belonging to the Lord. Worldly events are prone to cause likes and dislikes in a worldly man. But the spiritual aspirant ought to practise even-mindedness in all eventualities. 

A person found it very difficult to meditate on God because of his immediate attachment to a relative. "Behold your favourite relative as God come in that form" was the advice given to him. On pursuing that attitude meditation on the Lord became easy for that person

Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa